How Much Of Your Life Have You Thrown Away?

Wealth is cultivated; it is grown, nurtured, and then the harvest comes with time.

What little seeds have you thrown away?

These attempts to get wealthy overnight is responsible for a lot of the rituals, internet fraud, and blackmail. True money is made legitimately and gradually.

How much money have you thrown away on excitement, extravagance, etc?

Creating wealth is deliberate. Wealth is grown from potentials. When you see a potential is something, deliberately grow and nurture it.

A lot of the wealth overseas are the things Africa throws away, not able to manage, don’t add value to, and don’t nurture.

How much of life are you driving past?

How much of life are you throwing away?

How much of the remnants of your life are you reinvesting?

How much of the substance of your life are you investing?

We get wise too late, and get old too quickly.

Why Brilliant and Wise People Can be Poor | Secrets of the Elite

A continuation on the series on the Secrets of the Elite

Ecclesiastes 9:13-16

 I also saw under the sun this example of wisdom that greatly impressed me: 14 There was once a small city with only a few people in it. And a powerful king came against it, surrounded it and built huge siege works against it. 15 Now there lived in that city a man poor but wise, and he saved the city by his wisdom. But nobody remembered that poor man. 16 So I said, “Wisdom is better than strength.” But the poor man’s wisdom is despised, and his words are no longer heeded.

You can have good intentions or ‘good character’ that will probably take you to heaven, but in the sociology of day-to-day living, if you don’t have street wisdom, you will be despised by friends, family, and in your workplace.

You can be wise and despised if you are poor.

You can be brilliant and despised if you don’t have influence.

You must have appetite for life. Just as God loved Jacob and hated (preferred) Esau because he (Esau) was careless with life.

You must dare in life.

The man knew the strategy to save the city but he did not negotiate like Jephthah.

The elite always know how to negotiate what benefits them if they pay a price.

The Iron Law of Oligarchy & The Two-tribe Theory of Under-developing Nations

The Iron Law of Oligarchy

When organisations, fellowships, or movements want to start, they usually start with an ideal; however, when they are formed and consolidated, a time comes when an elite class and a few groups of people corner the privileges to themselves and leave the majority in oppression or poverty.

And these privileges are guarded with an iron fist that makes it very difficult to be penetrated.

Apoki’s Theory of Two Tribes

The two-tribe theory of “Under-developing Nations” identifies two groups of people when a fight for liberation or independence has been successful with a united force.

In practice, there are no tribes: religious groups, north/south, or parties in such nations.

There are just the “oppressors” and the “oppressed”, the “rich” and the “poor”, the “opportunists” and those who are taken advantage of.

This elite class of people do not usually play by the rules.

The tragedy, most times, is that the Stockholm syndrome makes the oppressed fall in love with their oppressors.

Sometimes, there are rare phenomena – a third tribe that exists for humanity that belong to neither of the two tribes.

Socioeconomic/Political Intelligence | Secrets of the Elite Class

Lessons of Life

  • In every society, there’s usually a small group of people that exercise control and power in every sector of the society – religion, music, fashion, politics, sports etc.
  • The elite don’t marry because of love; they are paired for control and power
  • Any man/woman that you’re subject to understands you
  • Only an elite few that are loyal to the founding fathers control the majority of the comfort and the wealth
  • The elite deliberately prepare their children to take over power and control
  • Getting is more important before giving, and the ultimate aim is control.
  • The elite build relationships they can trust
  • The elite know how to play to the weaknesses and strengths of the masses.
  • Popularity is different from influence. Influence is the ability to make people see things from your persperctive. The elite know how to exert influence.

A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

An interview with Mrs. Felicia Apoki, the project manager and administrator of the building process of Petra Christian Academy, Okuokoko.

Lessons of Life

  • You must learn to build up on whatever you are doing. Always do better the next time.
  • Don’t allow the names and criticisms of people to manifest in your life. Always try to prove people who don’t believe in you wrong.
  • The best way to start is to start. When you start, stay focused till you achieve your goals.
  • You don’t need to be sophisticated to appreciate and demand excellence.
  • Never allow your mates to meet you where they left you. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. The most important thing is that you leave your position in a positive direction.
  • Don’t be discouraged by locations when you want to invest in real estate. Development always moves fast.
  • You don’t need money in bulk sums before you start any project. You can start with whatever you have in your hand.
  • Anything can be done with the Philosophy of the Ant.
  • Men should learn to entrust responsibility to there wives.
  • Men should learn to utilise the strengths of their wives with wisdom.
  • Women should not be scared to express themselves.
  • There’s always good in the land (Nigeria) if you are careful enough to look.
  • You can make it anywhere if you are determined.

Watch full video below

God bless you.

Decompress and Decongest Your Life

Life and living can place a lot of demands on your physical, mental, and social well-being. Don’t let so-called “motivational speakers” like Dr. Apoki Charles put you under unnecessary pressure. Inasmuch as I talk about KPIs (Key Performance Indicators), and Daily Performance Indicators, we must be very careful not to congest our lives with very debilitating activities.

I had to change my hotel accommodation from the city centre in Port Harcourt to one closer to where I was preaching, because of the stress of driving for 45 minutes each, to and from the city centre to the church. The risk of driving through the busy highway was not good for my age. I was more relaxed in the new hotel and it took me less time to get to the church.

I receive a lot of calls from different people who want to have face to face discussions with me. I have found out that I could easily discuss such matters over the phone and free more time for myself for more productive activities.

I also use the Vilfredo Pareto Principle, when applied means that 80% of your efforts will bring 20% of your returns, and 20% of your efforts will bring 80% of your results.

As much as daily performance indicators (DPIs) are important, you must not crowd your days and life with non-productive activities. Long-term Performance Indicators are much better indicators in the long run.

There are things that gave me revenues in the time past that I no longer do because I need to decongest my life and concentrate on newer and more productive activities. This is very important at 63 years of age because time becomes more valuable as you get older. You can’t afford to waste your time now.

God Bless You.

Life, Like all Activities, is Governed by Rules and Principles

If you don’t know the rules of engagement in any activity, you cannot excel. The good thing about life is that several principles are parallel and they don’t need to have a point of convergence; they do not need to logically agree with each other.

A lot of arguments are borne out of a limited understanding of life. God is a God of love, but He also kills. If you like argue from Jos to Jericho, it does not change the mutually exclusive truths. There are principles that work for one person, in particular locations and circumstances, that might not work for others in different climes. I have found the principles of delayed gratification and gradualism very useful in my family.

The pictures in this slide are pictures of our new school, Petra Christian Academy, Okwokoko, near Osubi Airport. This land used to be my mother-in-law’s cassava farm. We bought it from the family about 20 years back. I remember vividly when my wife used to come harvest cassava there and someone made mockery of her that, “those who went to school are now the ones peeling cassava”. Then, we just returned from Aba after selling our hospital to start ministry.

Play your game, don’t listen to commentators, they don’t win medals. Focus on your goal, and put in the effort to win your game.

We started building this school in 2018, but we had moulded blocks many, many years back. When others were selling their portions to buy cars to live large, we held on to our own. Any time we sold a portion from the land, we reinvested part of the money on larger pieces of land in more peripheral and cheaper areas. We sold most times because of the challenges of training our children overseas. We do not regret any of such sales because it’s a win-win situation.

We have been building this school comprising of a nursery, primary, and secondary section, a beautiful duplex for the administrator, bookshop, reception, and gatehouse with the principle of gradualism. It’s located in a well-built area.

My wife has always believed that you should not let your mates meet you where or how they saw you previously. She insists that we must improve on our former best. One of the challenges we have presently at Petra Christian Academy, Ughelli, is accessibility. We have only one access road. But here, we have several access roads. We started with ‘fitness for purpose’ at Ughelli, but here, we will complete the school and officially open it by the grace of God on August 25th, 2022, on my wife’s 61st birthday.

You would have noticed that we are more into building schools. Find what works for you, grow, and improve in that space. Diversify very carefully. Focus is very very important. Whatever we have invested here could have been squandered on frivolities and grandiosity. But my wife, who is the project manager, has remained focused on achieving our family goals.

I derive so much fulfilment from this school project because when my father-in-law died, her family refused to train her because she was a girl child. They said it was a waste to train her for her husband. Today, this project is the biggest project and investment by an indigene in Okuokoko. Secondly, we have shut up all those who made mockery of us with a spectacular result. That’s my prayer for you, too, in Jesus name amen.

God Bless You.

Take a Concrete Step Each Day Towards Your Vision

The difference between a dreamer and a visionary person is action.

Talk is cheap.

I have learnt a lot from my wife because she is the greatest motivational actor I know. She is the engine that drives our family affairs. SHE IS AN ACTION PERSON. She does not talk much but acts a lot.

I have come to notice that many people want to become motivational speakers without demonstrable results. That’s what my wife warned me about.

This is the first building project I’m handling on my own because she is handling a very big project somewhere else that only those very close to us know about. But each day, she makes concrete progress. I’m always amazed at the cumulative results whenever I visit the project she is handling.

Every day my wife wakes up, she takes a concrete step towards the visions I have shared with her. On Sunday, 23/1/2022, after church service and siesta, I already know what concrete step I’m going to take. The materials I need are already packed.

You add value to your life, time, and money by taking concrete developmental steps daily.

I don’t live my life based on congregational or denominational declarations or new month declarations by others that they send to me via SMS or Facebook messenger. In fact, I don’t read them. I know my needs and my life more than any prophet.

By the grace of God, you take charge of your life instead of leaving it to chance and the dictates of others. A lot of folks have spent the first 20+ days of January drifting along with an agenda set by others without consideration for your own life or your consent. By the end of January ask yourself, “What concrete steps have you taken to improve your life?”

Remember, we get old too quickly and wise too late.

God Bless You.

Abandoned Visions Turn Into Nightmares

I was close to the age of 40 years when I suddenly realised that I had abandoned my vision for life and was becoming a tool or even a broom in a vision I was not responsible for.

I came to realise the following realities:

P1 – Purpose

Take personal responsibility for your life and purposes.

In the Parable of Talents, each servant was responsible for the management of his talent. It was not a congregational or denominational responsibility. The earlier you realise this, the better for you and the fewer chances you have of complaining about your denominational leadership.

A purpose-driven life is more beneficial to a denomination than a life merely in pursuit of miracles.

P2 – Personal pronouncements upon your life

You are the most effective prophet in your life. Prophecies don’t work on visionless lives unless it’s of predictable doom. You can pronounce your future into existence.

P3 – Prayers

Prayers must be for purposes beyond your personal needs. When I found a purpose beyond my personal needs, Jehovah became a partner in my vision.

Most of what I do are not for my immediate personal needs. They are mainly to meet the needs of humanity. You reach a stage in life when your personal needs are met by the humanity which you serve.

I always wonder how you allow others to determine what you pray about and you even repeat prayers after people (that you most times don’t understand). You know your pains and purposes, and you are in the best position to discuss with your father.

I am my best prayer partner.

You can hold a contrary opinion, but as far as it’s my personal life, I know my needs more than anyone else.

P4 – Preparation

I started buying land here (at Effurun-Otor) 9 years back, bit by bit.

I moulded blocks many years ago. I had also accumulated about 20 trips of sand some years back from the honorarium I received from my lectures and preaching engagements.

P5 – Planning

When your purpose is for kingdom development, the spirit of the Lord is part of your planning. Your planning is like prophecy.

I waited for the right time before laying the foundation of the building.

Planning brings prioritisation and order to your life.

P6 – Push and pursuit of purpose

Your purpose must follow you to bed, get you out of bed, and send you to work on your purpose.

Wake up and work on your purpose, if not weeds will grow on it.

P7 – Perspective

Know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there.

P8 – People

You need the right people to help you push your dream to fruition. Some people are speed breakers and fire extinguishers. Some are subtractors and dividers. Avoid them.

After all the prayers and prophecies, stand up and pursue your purpose.

God Bless You.

Work Has Started On My Carryovers

I have started working on my carryovers.

This manure is a carryover from last year to improve the productivity of the carryover cassava I planted last year.

My wife has been a constant carryover for the past 37 years. I no longer pray for her to change; I only ask for more grace to marry her. l know I am her biggest carryover, but she is coping with my abnormality.

Don’t be under pressure from motivational preachers like me; we all have carryovers. Uncompleted church buildings are carryovers.

The problem with several unproductive people is that they don’t know when to stop the groove and be on the move. Your bills did not stop during the holidays. Those who hype the festive periods were making more money from their airlines, transportation businesses, eateries, lounges, hotels, and shopping malls. They were not carried away by the groove.

January is the planting season for the later harvest of the year.

Yesterday, I stocked broilers for the next groove during Easter. I also stocked some layers to replace some older ones. I will sell the old layers later to an eatery where young people come to eat.

The groove is over; return to your business place before others take your customers.

The groove is over; leave your village and go back to your base before you start begging for money to buy fuel or a ticket to go back home.

The groove is over; go back to your base before they start falling sick in the village.

The groove is over; house rent and school fees are waiting.

God Bless You